When I'm at work, in my super "clean" club that has a reputation for letting guys get away with even less than they actually do, maybe 1 guy a night is that super gentleman who won't even put his $1 between my boobs for fear of touching them by accident and disrespecting me. More than half of the rest of them will actively try to squeeze my breast while they do it. For $1. Of that last slightly-less-than-half, many will fold that $1 bill into the tiniest possible size, to try and get the maximum amount of their fingers merely brushing against my skin. For $1.
All night, I am subject to men who think it's totally appropriate not only to grope my breasts, ass, and sometimes even my pussy as I walk past them, without even paying me. They feel that they have already paid the $15 to get into the club, and that it is thus their right as customers to touch my body, regardless of what I may think.
Frequently, regardless of whether or not these men have paid me a dime, me saying "stop," or moving their hands away, or doing anything suggesting that I should have power over what happens to my own body, is met with surprise, confusion, and even hostility. That's when they pay attention to my reaction at all. As often as not, they don't stop, and will continue to grab my ass (where it usually starts), or move on to the other obvious "no-no zones" after being told not to touch me.
What does that say about how these men view the value of any woman? These things happen with sober men, drunk men, white men, black men, latino men, etc...
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Date: 2009-06-16 09:46 pm (UTC)All night, I am subject to men who think it's totally appropriate not only to grope my breasts, ass, and sometimes even my pussy as I walk past them, without even paying me. They feel that they have already paid the $15 to get into the club, and that it is thus their right as customers to touch my body, regardless of what I may think.
Frequently, regardless of whether or not these men have paid me a dime, me saying "stop," or moving their hands away, or doing anything suggesting that I should have power over what happens to my own body, is met with surprise, confusion, and even hostility. That's when they pay attention to my reaction at all. As often as not, they don't stop, and will continue to grab my ass (where it usually starts), or move on to the other obvious "no-no zones" after being told not to touch me.
What does that say about how these men view the value of any woman? These things happen with sober men, drunk men, white men, black men, latino men, etc...