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WHAT IS LOVE? BABY DON'T HURT ME. DON'T HURT ME. NO MORE.
Day 01 – Introduce yourself
Day 02 – Your first love
Day 03 – Your parents
Day 04 – What you ate today
Day 05 – Your definition of love
( The Rest )
Seriously now.
Love. There are lots of definitions.
I love my friends. I'd pretty much do any number of stupid or painful things for them. There is more love for some than for others. But. It's how it goes.
I love my cat. I still miss my Lexie. I loved him so much. Juliet is so awesome. I am so happy to have her. :)
Romantic love though. Oooh, what a mess.
I've come to the conclusion that being in love, regardless of your definition, is not enough for a relationship. There has to be a mutual respect, mutual attraction, mutual honesty, mutual interests...
It gets sticky. So I think that those fall into my love category. I have heard the "but I love him!/her!" excuse for so many people to stay in a relationship that it makes me sick.
I loved deeply, had long history, had good times.. But, the second I'm disrespected or lied to (and I'm talking big lies. Cheating, emotional or physical, stealing.. stuff like that) I AM OUT.
And I will cry. And I will mourn the loss.
One of my ex's I turned that romantic love to sibling love.
One of my ex's I thought I'd die loving, but now I just wish him well. I don't think I love him anymore, even as a friend. Huh. Kind of amazing when I put myself in a different mindset.
One of my ex's I love just as a friend since he's still pretty wonderful.
Right now, I am very in love with Andrew.
Why?
Because....
he makes me laugh.
he cuddles me.
he's seen me at some low points, and still wanted to be with me.
he accepts my mood swings, and still loves me.
he pretty much always listens to my point of view, and will even use my ideas!
we never go to bed angry at each other.
he has a very similar ethic/moral system as me.
we have similar interests, but we're no up each other's asses about it.
And a slew of other shit.
I can look into his eyes and feel accepted. He doesn't call me names, he doesn't hit me (Well. HA. That's another post *grins*), he respects me, and he's nice to my friends.
So, for me. Love is so much more. I think people mistake love for history sometimes. It's hard to let certain things go. Fear and heartbreak are incredibly painful.
Day 02 – Your first love
Day 03 – Your parents
Day 04 – What you ate today
Day 05 – Your definition of love
( The Rest )
Seriously now.
Love. There are lots of definitions.
I love my friends. I'd pretty much do any number of stupid or painful things for them. There is more love for some than for others. But. It's how it goes.
I love my cat. I still miss my Lexie. I loved him so much. Juliet is so awesome. I am so happy to have her. :)
Romantic love though. Oooh, what a mess.
I've come to the conclusion that being in love, regardless of your definition, is not enough for a relationship. There has to be a mutual respect, mutual attraction, mutual honesty, mutual interests...
It gets sticky. So I think that those fall into my love category. I have heard the "but I love him!/her!" excuse for so many people to stay in a relationship that it makes me sick.
I loved deeply, had long history, had good times.. But, the second I'm disrespected or lied to (and I'm talking big lies. Cheating, emotional or physical, stealing.. stuff like that) I AM OUT.
And I will cry. And I will mourn the loss.
One of my ex's I turned that romantic love to sibling love.
One of my ex's I thought I'd die loving, but now I just wish him well. I don't think I love him anymore, even as a friend. Huh. Kind of amazing when I put myself in a different mindset.
One of my ex's I love just as a friend since he's still pretty wonderful.
Right now, I am very in love with Andrew.
Why?
Because....
he makes me laugh.
he cuddles me.
he's seen me at some low points, and still wanted to be with me.
he accepts my mood swings, and still loves me.
he pretty much always listens to my point of view, and will even use my ideas!
we never go to bed angry at each other.
he has a very similar ethic/moral system as me.
we have similar interests, but we're no up each other's asses about it.
And a slew of other shit.
I can look into his eyes and feel accepted. He doesn't call me names, he doesn't hit me (Well. HA. That's another post *grins*), he respects me, and he's nice to my friends.
So, for me. Love is so much more. I think people mistake love for history sometimes. It's hard to let certain things go. Fear and heartbreak are incredibly painful.
