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[synnoveaevael]

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[rhps613.livejournal.com]

in my defense I put two guys in the hospital on evening for defending my friend. So yeah

[anathemad.livejournal.com]

And that is one reason why I married cassiusdrow. I have never had to doubt, not ONCE that he would do that to me or any woman, nor that if he saw it coming to that (or even less), that he would step in (and has).

But yeah, before I was with him? I felt like that all the time. I feel like it to a lesser extent when he is not next to me, even now.

[fairyrune]

That post is correct.

BUT.

I think that the responsibility for preventing rape should not just be put on men. I think we need to educate girls better and at a younger age that it's perfectly fine to say NO if you're uncomfortable, and that no MEANS no, and if some guy thinks it doesn't he deserves a kick in the balls.

I'm NOT saying that anyone who gets raped, ever, is to blame. I just think that some of those poor women would have not had such a horrible thing happen to them if they had been better educated.

[odogonefishin.livejournal.com]

I have some issues with that post. In spite of her roundabout way of saying that not all guys are like that, her tone betrays her thoughts. Her tone would indicate that (push come to shove) it would be rare for a guy to NOT go down that path, and I find that pretty damned offensive. She wonders where the stories are? They don't get told because, quite frankly, *not* raping someone shouldn't be something you have to brag on.

as to redstapler's comment, I have several times thrown people over my shoulder (or otherwise picked them up - Ro just was NOT going over my shoulder) quite without permission. That isn't anywhere near the same ballpark. To be fair, none were strangers and I was quite certain that none would be offended by my action (even if, especially in Ro's case, they were rather afraid).

markmade is right that there really is that sweeping generalisation in the post.

I wonder, how would cereta react to my assertion that Megan's Law (in all its various forms) should be tossed out. Would she listen to my reasoning? Or would she respond with accusations that I'm marginalizing sexual assault.

[malkfan.livejournal.com]

I tottally agree with odogonefishin, not raping someone is not something you brag about. I for have been faced with that situation, and yes I did scoop the girl up and drive her home. While a few bad apples do spoil the bunch you cannot hold all of man (gender) responsible for the actions of a few. Rape in and of intself is a reprehensible crime that should be held by the legal system as high as murder in the first. I for one wonder what cereta would say if I presented her with the nationwide statistics of male rape. That is a woman who rapes a man. Those too are stories you never hear about and in fact the court system makes it harder to prove male rape... In my line of work I have had to treat rape victims. While state protocol does dictate that rape victims be treated by a female ambulance crew, that is not always possible when the emergecny rises. I have had to sit with women and attempt to assuade them into believing that I am there to help not to hurt and I had to do this just because I am male and the experience that they just went through. Do these stories get told no... Why?? you may ask because they are not interesting... odogonefishin brought up the lacrosse team that was accused of rape recently, when that happend it was all over the news. That my friends is textbook journalism, you go with what people want to see and or read... No one wants to hear about the guy who tucked the hot girl into his bed and went to sleep on the couch because she got drunk and passed out at his house, they would rather hear about how he raped her, and that my friends is the sick sad world we live in and has nothing to do with gender. It's media sensationalism, the same reason that you don't hear about the fireman who saved the old ladies kitty from a tree no one really cares... Saying that all men will rape when given the oppurtunity is like saying that all black people deal drugs, or that all asians are good at math, or all homosexuals have excellent fashion sense, it's stereotyping and it's not right to stereotype when it comes to race and it's not right when it comes to gender...

That's just my two cents I could be wrong...

[sfenris.livejournal.com]

Having been on both sides of this equation (raped, and not raped/looked after), I can say that good men are becoming a rarity.

I was at a frat party, and I was blitzed out of my mind. One of my brothers watched out for me, and even let me sleep off some of the horridness I had gotten myself in to on his chest. All I can remember after the praying to the porcelain gods, was my big coming into the room and making lewd remarks about how the guy taking care of me should have taken advantage of things. (reason #286 for hating my big)

This whole thing sucks. No matter how many times people say how progressive our country is, we are just as bad as the 3rd world. Happens every day, in many walks of life. I just wish that the world/country would have progressed more than this in 200+ years.

[pmsgoddess69.livejournal.com]

Education is key, for both sides. Women need to know that its ok to say no, and men need to know that no means no and just because one may fool around with someone doesn't mean that sex is an automatic. I have been on both sides of the fence, and went so far as attempting to prosecute the fucker but even in 2009 rape is an incredibly difficult crime to prove, no matter what, education is key, but i also believe unfortunately that it is one of the oldest crimes and won't ever go away.